Can A Man Be Raped… By A Woman?

25 08 2009

A friend of mine was telling me about a particular conversation he was having, when he turned and asked me my opinion. I gave him my opinion, heard his take, and was told the takes of the others involved in the conversation. Read on….


(This article was taken from Time Magazine.)

“Can A Man Be Raped?”

One answer, of course, is yes — by another man. In fact by some estimates, 10% of rape victims are men, though they rarely report the crime. But the interesting question, in light of the current debate, is how a man could be raped by a woman.

Most men would say, with physiological confidence, that if a man doesn’t want to have sex, he can’t be tied down and forced. Human anatomy provides him a special protection. But there are sex therapists who dispute this notion; some point to “masochistic titillation,” while others speculate that panic, along with fear of bodily harm, does not necessarily rule out sexual arousal and may even increase it in some cases.

In any event, the most expansive definitions of rape include psychological coercion, which raises the question, Couldn’t a woman emotionally pressure a man to have sex, by, for instance, impugning his manhood if he refused, and thus be guilty of rape?

If the word is given to mean unwanted sex, then men are vulnerable too. A 1988 study of sexually active college students found that 46.3% of the women and 62.7% of the men reported having had unwanted intercourse. Peer pressure, coercion, intimidation — all led students into situations they later regretted.

Some researchers fear that even raising the question trivializes the whole issue of rape. But there are paradoxes here that might shed light on the issue. How is it that when an adolescent boy is coerced into sleeping with an older woman, it is viewed with a wink as an accepted rite of passage, while the reverse — the coercion of a girl by an older man — is clearly not?


(The following links contains mature content… so use discretion when reading: Eric’s Story and Mike’s Story. Also, for more information, try The Disadvantages of Being Male).


I say that yes, it is *possible* for a man to be raped by a woman.
So… I’m curious.
What are your thoughts on this issue?
Leave a comment.


The Atheist Test

19 08 2009

The following is something I found on my Mother’s kitchen table. I read it, thought it was pretty good, and decided to type it up and post it on here. Word-for-word. Enjoy. 🙂

The theory of evolution of the Coca Cola can.

          Billions of years ago, a big bang produced a large rock. As the rock cooled, sweet brown liquid formed on its surface. As time passed, aluminum formed itself into a can, a lid, and a tab. Millions of years later, red and white paint feel from the sky, and formed itself into the words “Coca Cola… 12 fluid ounces.”
          Of course, my theory is an insult to your intellect because you know that if the Coca Cola can is made, there must be a maker. If it is designed, there must be a designer. The alternative (that it happened by chance or accident) is to move into an intellectual-free zone.

The Banana – the Athiest’s Nightmare.
Note that the banana:
1. Is shaped for human hand
2. Has non-slip surface
3. Has outward indicators of inward contents: green – too early, yellow – just right, black – too late.
4. Has a tab for removal of wrapper
5. Is perforated on wrapper
6. Bio-degradable wrapper
7. Is shaped for human mouth
8. Has a point at top for ease of entry
9. Is pleasing to taste buds
10. Is curved towards the face to make eating process easy.

To say that the banana happened by accident is even more unintelligent than to say that no one designed the Coca Cola can.

The person who things the Coca Cola can had no designer is:
•  A. Intelligent
•  B. A fool
•  C. Has an ulterior motive for denying the obvious

          Did you know that the eye has 40,000,000 nerve endings, the focusing muscles move an estimated 100,000 times a day, and the retina contains 137,000,000 light-sensitive cells?
          Charles Darwin said, “To suppose that the eye could have been formed by natural selection seems, I freely confess, absurd in the highest degree.” If man cannot begin to make a human eye, how could anyone in his right mind think that eyes formed by mere chance? In fact, man cannot even make anything from nothing. We don’t know how to do it. We can re-create, reform, develop… but we cannot create even one grain of sand from nothing. Yet, the eye is only a small part of the most sophisticated part of creation – the human body.
          George Gallup, the famous statistician said, “I could prove God statistically; take the human body alone; the chance that all the functions of the individual would just happen is a statistical monstrosity.”
          Albert Einstein said, “Everyone who is seriously interested in the pursuit of science becomes convinced that a spirit is manifest in the laws of the universe – a spirit vastly superior to man, and one in the face of which our modest powers must feel humble.”

1. Do you know of any building that didn’t have a builder? • YES    • NO
2. Do you know of any painting that didn’t have a painter? • YES    • NO
3. Do you know of any car that didn’t have a maker? • YES    • NO
If you answered “YES” for any of the above, please give details:

          Could I convince you that I dropped 50 oranges onto the ground and they by chance fell into ten rows of five oranges? The logical conclusion is that someone with an intelligent mind put them there. The odds that ten oranges would fall by accident into a straight line are mind-boggling, let along tens rows of five.

A. From the atom to the universe, is there order? • YES    • NO
B. Did it happen by accident, or must there have been an intelligent mind? • YES    • NO
C. What are the odds of 50 oranges falling by chance into ten rows of five oranges? ____________________________

          The declaration, “There is no God,” is what is known as an absolute statement. For an absolute statement to be true, I must have absolute knowledge. Here is another absolute statement: “There is no gold in China.”

What do I need to have for that statement to be true?
•  A. No knowledge of China
•  B. Partial knowledge of China
•  C. Absolute knowledge of China

          “C” is the correct answer. For the statement to be true I must know that there is no gold in China, or the statement is incorrect. To say “There is no God,” and to be correct in the statement, I must be omniscient. I must know how many hairs are upon every head, every thought of every human heart, every detail of history, every atom within every rock… nothing is hidden from my eyes… I know the intimate details of the secret love-life of the fleas on the back of the black cat of Napoleon’s great grandmother. To make the absolute statement “There is no God,” I must have absolute knowledge that there isn’t one.
          Let’s say that a circle represents all the knowledge in the entire universe, and let’s assume that you have an incredible 1% of all that knowledge. Is it possible, that in the knowledge you haven’t yet come across, there is ample evidence to prove that God does not exist? If you are reasonable, you will have to say, “Having the limited knowledge I have at present, I believe that there is no God.” In other words, you don’t know if God exists, so you are not an “atheist” – you are what is commonly known as an “agnostic.” You are like a man who looks at a building and doesn’t know if there was a builder.

The man who sees a building and doesn’t know if there was a builder is:
•  A. Intelligent
•  B. A fool
•  C. Has an ulterior motive

          Perhaps you have questions that hold you back from faith. First, almost every question you have about suffering humanity, etc., can be adequately answered. Second, we have faith in plenty of things we don’t understand. Did you understand the mechanics of television before you turned it on? Probably not. You took a step of faith, turned it on, and after it worked, understanding HOW it worked wasn’t that important. We accept that there are unseen television waves right in front of our eyes. We can’t see them because they are invisible. For them to manifest, we need a receiver, then we can enjoy the experience of television.
          God is not flesh and blood. He is an eternal Spirit – immortal and invisible. Like the television waves, He cannot be experienced until the “receiver” is switched on. Here is something you will find hard to believe: Jesus said, “He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him” (John 14:21). Either that is true or it isn’t. Jesus Christ says that He will manifest Himself to anyone who oberys Him. Approach the subject the same way you approached your first television set. Just take a small step of faith. If it works, enjoy it; if it doesn’t, forget it.

          Or have you an ulterior motive? Could it be that the “atheist” can’t find God, for the same reason a thief can’t find a policeman? Could it be that your love for sin is clouding your good judgment? If the Bible is true, and Jesus Christ has “abolished death and brought life and immortality to light through the Gospel,” then you owe it to yourself just to check it out. Here is how to do that:

With a tender conscience, check this list of the Ten Commandments:
1. Have I always loved my Creator with all my heart, mind, soul, and strength? • YES    • NO
2. Have I made a god in my own image (a god to suit myself)? • YES    • NO
3. Have I ever used God’s name in vain? • YES    • NO
4. Have I kept the Sabbath holy? • YES    • NO
5. Have I always honored my parents implicitly? • YES    • NO
6. Have I murdered (God considers hatred murder)? • YES    • NO
7. Have I committed adultery (which includes premarital sex and lust)? • YES    • NO
8. Have I stolen (the value is irrelevant)? • YES    • NO
9. Have I lied (including fibs and these questions)? • YES    • NO
10. Have I coveted (been greedy or materialistic)? • YES    • NO

          If you have even broken one Law, then you have sinned again God and therefore will “surely die,” for the “wages of sin is death.” We are all guilty of breaking the Commandments. Listen to the voice of your conscience, and let it remind you of some of the sins of the past. We are not perfect as we are commanded to be (Matthew 5:48), either is our heart pure. On Judgment Day our transgressions will be evidence of our shame. Think of it: God has seen every sin we have ever committed. We share our thought-life with Him.
          We are guilty of violating His Law a multitude of times, yet if we repent, God can forgive us because Jesus stepped into our courtroom 2,000 years ago and paid that fine for us. His death on the cross satisfied the Law we so blatantly transgressed, and at the same time demonstrated how much God loves us – “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life” (John 3:16). His shed blood on the cross can make you clean in the sight of a Holy God… as though you have never sinned. God doesn’t want you to go to Hell. Please, forget your arguments, repent and put your trust in Jesus, and be saved from God’s wrath. Make Psalm 51 your prayer, then read the Bible daily and always obey what you read; God will never let you down.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

Turtle Tunnels: *oy vey!*

18 08 2009

This morning started off with me conversing with one of my co-workers. The topic of our conversation: “turtle tunnels”. True story. Someone thought it would be a good idea to build a tunnel for turtles to cross through since a road was being built straight through a major “turtle-crossing” area. However, apparently birds and other predators figured out the secret that, if they waited at one of the ends of the tunnel, food would eventually pop out. The poor turtles. So… the turtles no longer wanted to use the tunnel to cross over the road. Another genius thought: “I got it! The reason the turtles don’t like to use the tunnel is because they’re scared of the dark. We should put a light-system inside so they don’t have to cross through the tunnel in the dark!” *oy vey!* $3.4 million dollars later, the turtles have a well-lit tunnel to safely cross under the road in… all in an effort to prevent massive turtle road kill. A while later when people were realizing the turtles were still not using the tunnel that was built for them, another individual decided that since the turtles don’t like the “old” tunnel, we should build them a “new” tunnel. Now THERE are my tax dollars working hard for a worthy cause.

Please don’t get me wrong. Turtles are great. I like turtles. Really, I do. But I don’t like turtles enough to build a $3.4 million tunnel (with lights) that they aren’t even going to use. Our society today has really hit the peak of ridiculousness.

I could say more… about several environmental issues. But I won’t. Because honestly, in the long run, it doesn’t matter. People are going to believe whatever they want to believe – no matter how much it costs.

For more information on “Turtle Tunnels” click the following links:
1. Turtle Tunnels
2. More Turtle Tunnels
3. Even More Turtle Tunnels

Outcry of My Heart

10 08 2009

Have you ever wondered at the fact that
God, Who is all-powerful, all-knowing, and
All-perfect, has no memory of the past
Wrongs of His children? He forgets the lies,
The hatred, the envy, and the lust. How
Is it then, that we, who are less than
God, have found a way to remember the
Sins of ourselves and others, and to hold
On to the blame, guilt, bitterness, and shame?

And still more perplexing is when God, Who
Delights when we do good deeds,
Considers them to be nothing more than filthy
Rags. While we, when men do good, praise
And glorify and exalt as if they have
Discovered a new way of life. Has
Mankind wandered so far from what
It once longed to mirror? Oh, that we
Would return to the once burning desire
That drove our infirm race to go on! Oh,
That we would learn to forget the past
Wrongs of our brothers and ourselves, and
Not praise the filthy rags that should wash our world.

 © Heather Vires 2005, all rights reserved.

In Possession of Stolen Property…

6 08 2009

Two drugged-up guys broke into the church and did much damage on the inside. They stole $900 from the church safe. They raided the kitchen, ate what they wanted, and made a mess of what was left. They tore through the Pastor’s office and stole a set of keys from a drawer. They ended their rampage by taking the church van for a joyride. They managed to crash into 6 other vehicles, and after a police-chase they ran head-on into another FORD van. That’s as far as they got. They were in possession of stolen property. They did what they wanted to do, and as a result of that they caused pain and problems for others. Property was damaged, carpeting and materials were ruined, cars were totaled, and the list goes on and on – thousands of dollars worth of damages.

If you’re a Christian – let me rephrase that: if you have asked Jesus to be your personal Savior – than you have been bought and paid for. You are no longer your own (I Corinthians 6:20, 7:23). Your body is the temple – the very dwelling place of the Holy Spirit (I Corinthians 6:19)! Therefore, you no longer have the right to do what you want to do, go where you want to go, say what you want to say, dress how you want to dress, look at what you want to look at, etc. What rights have the servants over their Master? None. They are to do, go, say, and work as the Master commands.

If you then live like you want to live, rather than living as God would have you to live – you are in possession of stolen property. I will say it again because it bears repeating: “You are not your own. You have been bought and paid for.”

Once you have been saved, if you still live like the world lives, talk like the world talks, go where the world goes, and act like the world acts – you are damaging the cause of Christ. Your poor testimony will cause people to look at Christians and think: “Well, who do they think THEY are…? I know ________ and he claims to be a Christian, but he still does ________ and ________. So why are they preaching at me for it?” -or- “She claims to be a Christian, but I know who she really is… I’ve seen her at ________ and I heard she does ________ all the time.”   Those “Christians” are in possession of stolen property! By living unholy, worldly lives they are hurting the cause of Christ. And we wonder why church ministries are at a stand-still: not growing, indifferent, cold, dead. We wonder why so little is getting done for the Lord.

You’re argument: “I have my rights!” My reply: “What rights?”
We have been bought with a price (I Corinthians 6:20, I Corinthians 7:23) – and we weren’t cheap, you know. The price the wages of our sin set was the death of perfection, the shedding of innocent blood, the sacrificing of the Only Begotten Son of God. So I ask again: What rights do the servants have over the Master? None. We are the servants of Christ (or rather, “co-laborers” WITH Christ), held hostage by His love, and a prisoner of hope by the faith which we have in His everlasting promises.

We have been commanded to: “therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.” Our heart’s prayer should be as David asked: “Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer” (Psalm 19:14).

Are you in possession of stolen property?

In Jesus

5 08 2009

I’ve tried in vain a thousand ways
My fears to quell, my hopes to raise;
But what I need, the Bible says,
Is ever, only Jesus.

My soul is night, my heart is steel –
I cannot see, I cannot feel;
For light, for life I must appeal
In simply faith to Jesus.

He died, He lives, He reigns, He pleads;
There’s love in all His words and deeds;
There’s all a guilty sinner needs
Forevermore in Jesus.

Though some should sneer, and some should blame,
I’ll go with all my guilt and shame;
I’ll go to Him because His name,
Above all names, is Jesus.

Acts 4:12 ~ “Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.”

James Procter was born and raised in an old-fashioned Christian home. He was in church every time the doors were open. He heard the truth preached constantly. Yet in his early teens he began to read the writings of the Free Thinkers and other infidels. He read the error of these writers to such an extent that his own faith in God became shaken. Eventually, he renounced all interest in the Christian faith and the Bible. He later joined the Free Thinkers’ Society in Manchester, soon becoming its president. During the early years of infidelity and searching for life’s meaning, James Procter penned the first two verses of this hymn. In the second verse he especially described his own attitudes as an unbeliever.

Later, while serving as the President of the Free Thinkers’ Society in Manchester, England, James experienced a serious illness. Fearing that the end of his life was at hand, he one day requested his sister to send for a minister of the Gospel. A faithful man of God came to his bedside and led Mr. Procter to a saving faith in Christ. The illness took and turn for the better and his sister described this experience during his convalescence:

“One day as I sat at my brother’s bedside he said: “Sister, go over to that old bureau and look through some papers in the top right drawer. You will find a sheet on which are too verses of a poem. I want to finish that text right now.”
I went over to the bureau and soon located the paper and began to read: “I’ve tried in vain…”
“Yes, yes, that’s it. Now let me dictate the last two verses to you.” with great excitement, my brother repeated the words slowly for the last two stanzas while I wrote them down with much care. That closing verse was especially meaningful to my brother as it represented his personal testimony to his many long-time friends, the other members of the Free Thinkers’ Society.

Though some should sneer, and some should blame,
I’ll go with all my guilt and shame;
I’ll go to Him because His name,
Above all names, is Jesus.

You can well imagine my delight on that November day of 1903 when the noted Gospel musician, Robert Harkness, expressed a real interest in my brother’s text. On a train trip home from Manchester, England, one rainy day Mr. Harkness wrote down the music that would accompany the song “In Jesus”.

Mr. Procter was raised in the light of the truth of Jesus. But no one is above falling. He renounced all interest in anything that had to do with the faith of his fathers and Jesus Christ. Psalm 14:1 says, “The fool hath said in his heart, There is no God.” But shortly before he died, he got it settled; he got it all made right. Oh, I’m so glad he changed his mind, aren’t you!

The Bible says in Proverbs 22:6, “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” God’s promises are true – they’re real! God is so good!

“Atheism is the death of hope, the suicide of the soul.” – Anonymous

“Atheism is rather in the lip than in the heart of man.” – Sir Francis Bacon (Essays: Of Atheism)

Acts 10:43 ~ “To him give all the prophets witness, that through his name whosoever believeth in him shall receive remission of sins.”

I Timothy 2:3-6 ~ “For this is good and acceptable in the sight of God our Saviour; Who will have all men to be saved, and to come unto the knowledge of the truth. For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus; Who gave himself a ransom for all, to be testified in due time.”